You’ve probably already perused my “about” page and some of my previous posts, but I wanted to share a little bit with you about my goals for this little space on the internet. 🙂
I love storytelling and especially stories of redemption. Every personal development story feels to me like a redemption story: someone hit a wall, they found a way over/around/through it, and the triumph on the other side is both inspiring and humbling. And usually they come out on the other side with wisdom to pass on to those still stuck behind the wall, which is awesome.
I certainly don’t claim to have it all figured out, but I have learned a lot in my 3+ decades on this planet, and especially in recent months. I’ve been working on improving my health for about fifteen months now: both my physical health and – more importantly – my mental health. I’m continuously learning new things and I love being able to pass on what wisdom I have gained to others!
With that in mind, I want you to know that I am here to do the following three things:
I think when you hit rock bottom, the first thing you look for is someone else to be down there with you. But not someone else who also fell there; someone who climbed down just to be with you. To sit and let you cry on their shoulder, to feed you chocolate, give you a back rub, let you yell all the curse words you know, just BE there. Empathize. They don’t have to even understand your whole story, they just need to be another force to justify the emotion you’re feeling, and thereby make you feel a little bit more human than you maybe were already feeling. Have you ever been in this place?
I think if we’re honest with ourselves, we’ve all hit rock bottom at one point or another in our lifetime. For me, my most recent fall was February 13th, 2017. Yup, the eve of Valentine’s Day. Albeit a popular day to feel down in the dumps, but I wasn’t in the Singles Awareness Day camp that year. Nope. I was blue for an entirely different reason. However, I did hit rock bottom… and a friend came along… and her empathy and encouragement made a huge difference in my life over the next year.
I hope to be this friend for you. Come here to find real-life stories and discussions of both success and struggle. I am not shy in talking about my struggles! I think that’s how we learn! And how we find our tribe – when someone else is stuck on the same spot you are, you can help each other out. Two heads are better than one!
After finding that person at the bottom who validates how we’re feeling, often times this awakens in us that desire to make some lasting changes in the circumstances that landed us here in the first place, right?! For me, that was taking steps to restoring my physical health.
When my friend helped rescue me that Valentine’s Eve, she provided accountability and support to help me get my life back on track! She was a long-distance friend, but that didn’t prevent her from checking in with me daily, helping me with my workouts and nutrition, and continuing to encourage and support me from afar!
I want to be that encouraging friend for you! Let me help you up out of the muck and remind you that you are worth more than your physical condition, that you are loved and were made with a purpose, and that no matter what happens you can always start over. Hope doesn’t die just because we stop trying. It is always there. Just waiting for us to grasp it and hold on tight. I want to help give you that hope, like my friend did for me.
Once I was into a groove and started seeing physical changes in my body and my health, I began to realize that this was a lot more of a mental game than a physical one! My journey was headed somewhere I did not expect, but it was exactly what I needed.
As I participated in countless accountability groups throughout my weight loss journey, I learned that it takes about 3-4 solid weeks of effort to form a new habit, and then the honeymoon is over and it takes a plethora of mental effort to keep from quitting.
In the past, I haven’t been able to keep up a “diet and exercise” regimen for more than a few months. I think the longest I ever kept something going before this was about six months. I’ve always allowed set-backs to completely derail me, and then I’m back to where I started in the blink of an eye. I really did NOT want that to happen again! I learned, through my umpteenth attempt at this process, that:
- Accountability really is the glue that seals commitment to results.
- Changes like this have to be permanent, in mind and in body…but especially in mind.
If you allow yourself, even for a second, to think “I’m only doing this for XYZ amount of time, then I can go back to willy-nilly workouts, snack binging after the kids are in bed, slacking in self-care, etc” you’re never going to get anywhere. Your mindset has to change, more than anything else.
This is where empowerment comes in to play. Once you feel like you’ve been validated in your position, have someone coming alongside to encourage you, you also need to feel empowered. You do not need someone to simply give lipservice to your ability to do this, but to actually walk you through the steps, equip you however they can, to help you fully understand that you can do hard things! Oh yes, friends, it will not be easy. You need someone who is willing to tell you that truth as well. Nothing worth doing is ever easy.
So, if you’re looking for a quick fix to your problems, I don’t have that for you. What I do have is a handful of tools that have been invaluable to me in my journey toward better health and mindfulness, and I look forward to sharing them with you here in this space! ❤